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Simplicity calls…disconnect to reconnect

Hey guys!!

So summer is here and we are a few weeks in to the summer holidays which for me means more time with my son and trying to balance work life, childcare and seeing friends and loved ones! I long for a more simple life and live for the days off where I can remain present, read books and enjoy great company in the sunshine ….

But life takes its toll and surely I can’t be the only one that feels like they are in a circus sometimes with their main trick being to juggle! Lol! Whether you have kids or not it can all get a bit on top. And having messages pouring in through various apps on our phones doesn’t make it any easier. I have felt really overwhelmed recently so decided to take action.

I gave up whatsapp a week ago as much as I love being connected sometimes it does feel like you have to instantly reply as that is how we’ve been conditioned to communicate and people do get shitty or take it personally if you don’t reply in a certain time frame. So I jumped off and won’t get it back until after the summer holidays so I can be a little more present with cam and exercise my boundaries with how ‘reachable’ I am.

I was also lucky enough to have received this amazing book from my friend Sarah for my earthday, ‘Go offline, be mindful’ which prompts you with activities to do that don’t involve being online. They also have a 30day challenge which I have decided to do through out August!

So I’m jumping out the rabbit hole that we call instagram and disconnecting to reconnect. As much as I love being on it, it can sometimes take up time and I want to be more present through out this summer holiday. I love the community we have built on insta so will still be sharing my thoughts and experiences on the blog (you can subscribe to get updates straight to your email! ) honestly thank you for being on this journey with me. To be able to hold space with you is something I appreciate everyday.

I share this just incase it inspires anyone to do something similar. Especially if you use socials for work, you can feel you have to show up and in some ways you do but don’t forget to take the time to look after you. You can’t pour from an empty cup after all.

I leave you with a little poem I wrote questioning ‘Does it ever get too much?’

I wish you an amazing summer whatever you get up to!

Love & light always.
Y.E. x

Be your own cheerleader! 


Evening guys!


Today I am going to talk to ya’ll about the importance of being your own cheerleader!


If you read my blog posts/insta posts you will notice I speak quite a lot about self-love. It is a topic so close to my heart; I truly believe it can fix a lot of issues in our lives.



Our minds are so powerful. Sometimes one negative thought can tarnish great things from happening. But one positive thought … well one positive thought could create anything you want.


We are often scared to praise ourselves at a risk of seeming egotistical. But we are so quick to praise others. Now whilst there is nothing wrong with praising others, why are we putting their achievements ahead of ours? Why are we not congratulating ourselves first? We are humans with feelings too. We need love and appreciation just as much as those around us. And giving it to ourselves is probably the best thing we can do.


It is so imperative to innerstand that we do not need anything or anyone but ourselves to validate our worth. If you have just achieved something amazing, tell yourself how amazing you are! Validation from others is great but validation from yourself to yourself is priceless. Nothing can top being your own cheerleader!


Manifest your dreams, create your own realities, make the world a better place and be your own cheerleader.


Remember boo boo’s, if no one stops to admire the stars, they will still glow. If no one recognises you, you will still grow!


All the best,


Jez xoxox

Self Love and Health

The most common questions I get asked is “how can I lose weight quickly” or “help me stick to a vegan lifestyle, it is way too hard!” I never know how to answer these queries; after all there is no right or wrong answer. But what I do encourage is SELF LOVE!!!

Self-love is the foundation to almost everything we do/feel. Self-love determines things like what attributes you desire in a partner or the way you regard your own well-being/happiness. It is one of the most important things we can have in this life. If you don’t love yourself, can you expect love from anyone else? No … you cannot.


Can you look in a mirror, look at yourself; your whole perfectly-flawed self, and say “I LOVE YOU!” with confidence. With meaning! With BELIEF!!


Most people laugh when I ask that questions. And I get it; in a world that is set up for self-loathing, loving yourself is often deemed strange. To love yourself is almost an act of rebellion.


But everyone needs love! It is so easy to love those around us. To hug them, kiss them, ask them how they are, cook them food, care for them. It should be just as easy to do these things for ourselves too!


Self-love & health:


Self-love is such an important characteristic for a healthy body! The more you love yourself, the more you will begin to innerstand how what you eat affects your body. And the more you love yourself the more mindful you will become of the food & drink you consume. Self-love is not easy but it is achievable! Take baby steps J


I am no self-love expert but, from my own experience, I can confidently say the moment you start to love yourself everything changes. Small doses of self-love is the reason I find it SO DAMN EASY to follow a healthy lifestyle: I value my body at a level where I make a conscious decisions everyday not to pollute myself with junk foods.


Self-love is deep and, at times, strangely emotional. But it is something I’d like to encourage you all to practice.


Practice makes perfect:


Here are my 4 tips for practicing self-love:


1. Be mindful – Question yourself and process situations properly. If you feel uneasy and don’t know why, ask yourself and find out. If you feel happy and don’t know why, ask yourself and find out! Innerstand who you are, what makes you happy, sad, excited, anxious etc. Act on that knowledge as opposed to other peoples expectations.
2. Forgive yourself – It is important to take responsibility for your actions, but don’t be so hard on yourself! Everyone makes mistakes. Learn from it, grow with the lesson and move on.

3. Live with intention – If your intention is to eat well and be healthy, you will make decisions and choices to create this reality for yourself


4. Practice self care – It is always great to pamper yourself once in a while; get a massage, get your haircut, get a manicure! But daily pampering is also vital! Small things like getting a good sleep each night, eating nutritious food and ensuring you are involved in healthy social interactions will all help boost self-worth and self-love.


Also try writing a list of all the things you are good at you might be surprised at how amazing you are!!


I hope this post was useful <3


If you need any further advice on self-love & health, feel free to email at at

All the best boo boo’s


Sat Nam


Jez xoxox

Why Meditate?

Buddha was asked “What have you gained from meditation?” He replied “Nothing! However, let me tell you what I have lost: Anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of old age and death.”

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Now it seems extreme that one can lose all of the above just by simply meditating but it can be done, I for one have experienced amazing benefits through meditation. Im going to write a very simple introduction to meditation, as it can get very deep Im going to try my best to keep it very basic. I hope you like and maybe have you attempting to meditate yourself;)


People always ask “What is meditation?” and I find the most simple answer is: “A time where one can enter great peace and be fully present”

Ok, so now you’re probably thinking, but my mind is always on the go? How do I silence the mind? Im far too busy! Why would I want to be quiet? Surely I am better off sharing my problems with another? What will I actually get out of it? Which leads me too…


There are so many health benefits to meditating, meditation allows you to enter a calm space, reducing stress levels. If we can reduce stress many health benefits follow not to mention the positive affect it has on those who suffer with insomnia, anxiety (me) and depression. It also allows you to have a deeper knowledge of self, allowing you to tap in to your passions and inner desires. When you are feeling centred and grounded it’s so much easier to be aware of what is going on around you and even more easier to respond to situations, whether negative or positive.

My personal experiences with meditation have lead me to a happier and healthier life. Im conscious and more aware now than ever and the most incredible thing about it is I am only at the beginning of my journey. Meditation has allowed me to tap in to my higher self and really get to know me, I have explored my limits and boundaries and by remaining quiet has also allowed me to monitor my emotions and energy. I now know when I am in a situation that is not good for me in one way or another, this is all energy and signs that were being blocked due to my busyness and constant on the go attitude. I thought I was working hard but in fact life was just passing me by and I wasn’t happy. I owe it to myself and my body to stop, clear my mind and just be still.

I was super nervous to start a class as I felt like a newbie who wouldn’t know what I was doing but all the centres I have been too have been so welcoming. (I will add links in this blog) Going on the buddhist retreat I went to also helped me massively and adopting the art of meditation with beautiful surroundings and consistently allowed it to flow more naturally.


Anyone!! Honestly I get asked all the time if a religious person can meditate and the answer is YES! When you see a buddhist bowing to a shrine they are not bowing to the shrine as an act of worship, they are bowing to their potential. The buddha stands for enlightenment, compassion and love. You are bowing to your potential. There are no boundaries and you do not have to be a buddhist to meditate.


Ok, so there are many ways to meditate. I personally meditate whenever and wherever I can, in the queue whilst shopping, whilst cooking or even waiting in traffic. These are all a chance to check in, take some deep breathes and be fully present in the moment. There are many other times as well but I will now concentrate on the traditional method of being seated and still. I choose to sit cross legged with pillows to help my posture, but you can find any position that suits you. You want to be comfortable! Trust me! Nothing is worse than trying to meditate yet your knees or back are killing! Ha-Ha! When I started I would always meditate with guided meditation CD’S or I have 2 apps which are on my phone for when I am on the go.

Its really nice to create a calm space where you can meditate, maybe burn some incense, burn some candles, you could have flowers, a buddha, stones or crystals. Anything that makes you feel happy, calm and relaxed. Once  you have your space set, its time to get comfortable. (Don’t forget to turn off all phone notifications as nothing kills a good meditation then a txt msg or call coming through!)  Some of the apps just have sounds if you would prefer no talking and some have pure silence and just sound with an opening and closing bell. Once you have chosen your preferred guide click play and enjoy:)

To meditate is to be fully present and check in with you. Thought’s will come to your mind but you just allow them to pass without holding on to them or creating some scenario which then turns in to a big story board in your head! ha-ha! Believe me, I have been there! Just let them go like passing clouds. Breathing is everything in meditation and learning mindfulness of breathing is probably the best place to start. It also takes your mind off of thinking because you are concentrating solely on breathing;)

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I hope this simple and short guide to meditating has helped and maybe get you to start trying it out! I would love to hear your feedback and you can e-mail in:

I will leave details of centres, retreats and phone apps below! Thank you for reading and I hope you enjoy the rest of your week!

Love&Light Always







-Smiling Mind



“Your body is precious. It is our vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” Buddha

As humans, our digestive tract is probably the most underappreciated system of our body. The way we treat this system has a major affect on our overall health and wellbeing: what we eat truly affects our mood.


Without getting into too much detail, our brain is directly connected to our digestive tract and vice versa. Our brain and stomach literally communicate with one another, which means the food we put into our stomach stimulates brain activity and hormone release. If you fill your body with carbonated drinks, refined sugars, artificial sweeteners/colours and processed foods your digestive system won’t be happy, which means your brain won’t be happy and, overall, YOU will not be happy!!


Many factors contribute to the development of depression: these can be biological, psychological, environmental etc. However, nutritional imbalances can also increase the risk of developing depression.

The neurotransmitter serotonin plays a huge part here. In essence, serotonin is a mood regulator and there is a wealth of research that suggests an imbalance in serotonin levels may influence mood. Taking this into consideration, it is no surprise that serotonin is released by both the brain and the gut. In fact, many studies show that the most concentrated serotonin levels are actually released in our gut.

So, what we eat affects our serotonin levels and thus affects our mood.


When our serotonin levels are low, we often become depressed, lose focus and have trouble sleeping. I truly believe that food plays a huge role in solving these issues!

The following list of food contains high levels of an amino acid called tryptophan. Tryptophan is what our body uses to make serotonin!

If you are feeling a bit low or have a troubled sleep cycle, try incorporating these foods into your diet:

* Mushrooms

* Spinach

* Kale

* Lentils

* Kidney beans

* Cauliflower

* Cucumber

* Walnuts

* Almonds

You may also want to try avoiding caffeine as it prevents the body from creating serotonin.

In conclusion, when we fuel our bodies with whole foods and organic fruits and veggies our gut flora (gut microorganisms) THRIVES!!! And so do we!

When you eat good, you feel good and you live good! 🙂

Thank you for reading! I hope you found this information useful. Feel free to leave any questions below and I will be sure to get back to you!

Sat Nam

Jez Kaur xxx

‘My Hair Journey’

Hi beautiful people!

This week is a personal one about me:) Yasmin! Well actually its all about my hair aka my mane aka my crown aka the big crazy curly fluff ball that sits on my head! HA-HA! So many people inbox about my hair and what products I use and how it remains so healthy although I colour it and another one I get asked is “How are you so confident with curly hair?”  Firstly I wanted to say I HATED my hair, like absolutely despised it! I’ve only had the confidence to wear it natural within the last 3 years! I used to straighten it all the time, longing to be like the girls in my class at school with their long wavy controlled hair whilst mine was stubborn and did as it pleased. I went through a few phases with my hair which resulted in it being very badly damaged and it lost all its life! See pictures below!


short blonde


These are just a few pictures which see me sporting all straight hair, whether blonde, brown, weave. I’ve also had red, black and even shaved the side of my hair but all hairstyles had one thing in common, there isn’t a curl in sight! I used to have beautiful curly hair but in my stubbornness to want it straight I ended up damaging it really bad and I will never forget washing it one day and it wouldn’t go curly, at all, I walked in to school and my friend Lauren couldn’t believe it, my hair literally looked like rats tails, and you know when bits go curly then you have all these straight bits that are just too damaged to do anything so they just hang there. That was me! I remember looking in the mirror and thinking “Well there you go Yas, you wanted straight hair and now you have it” and guess what? I hated it! I hated not having a choice between straight and curly.

Most girls now will find the front of their hair isn’t as curly as the back due to straightening, who remembers having a straight fringe and a massive bun? Ha-ha! But those that get weave sewn in and leave the front out to cover the tracks may definitely experience this. Or some like me would have damaged it all so you don’t want to wear it natural ever again and fall in to the trap of straightening it all the time. BUT WORRY NOT! Im here to say that with a bit of TLC and patience you can get your curls back in to tip top shape. Here is a picture of me when I first started wearing my hair curly at the end of 2012.

damaged curls

Although this is a very filtered photo (I can’t find anymore, I probably never took many because I felt hideous) you can still see that my curls are not very curly at all. My hair was awful but I stacked up on treatments and hair grease! ha-ha! I remember going to the hairdressers and asking for a trim to cut all the dead ends off, then I thought I have to rock this hair, I have to own it. Everybody hates the in-between stage especially me but I knew it would only be for a while. 3/4 months later my hair looked like this.

feeling confident

Still not as curly as I would have liked but I know I was feeling more confident and happy with it. I remember being so scared to put this up on instagram as it wasn’t the usual ‘middle parting weave’ that everybody else was rocking. BUT as time went on I started to love and embrace my NATURAL hair.

As time went on I invested in products such as Morrocan Oil and started to take regular trips to the hairdressers for trims and treatments. One of my favourite products to use was IC styling gel which comes in a clear squeezy bottle & is about £2.99 from hair shops such as ACE. I loved the fact it controlled the frizz of my curls but didn’t make them hard or crusty like most gels did once they dried. As time has gone on I’ve adopted a more natural approach and have made a few treatments at home. Much cheaper, easier and you know whats in it.

home treatment

 1 Avocado


Olive Oil



Mashed all together and as you can see in the before and after picture above, it really did the trick! I left it on whilst I did the housework and rinsed out later in the evening. My hair felt amazing!

I have now started using Mrs Millis products as well which are all made buy her and are organic, I love the ‘Leave In Sweetness Hair Conditioner with Shea Butter Vanilla & Strawberry’ and not only are the hair products amazing but the body products are too! Please check them out guys! You won’t be disappointed!

mrs millis

My Hair Transition!


On my journey to conscious living and being aware of what I am putting on both my hair and body I have found that my skin and hair hasn’t felt better! I have started to appreciate my differences and also realised that not all curls are the same. I am learning to embrace mine and with the patience of nearly 3 years they are getting to stage where I love them. They are my crown and its funny because the odd time I do straighten my hair I don’t feel like me. My hair has grown very long and I’m actually cutting a fair bit off this weekend just to encourage that bounce and health. Anybody out there that has hair looking like my first few pics but is still in that trap of just straightening it you are only making it worse! The time will pass anyway and I am so happy that I started my journey on to *SAVINGMYCURLS*. You just have to have some patience and really invest in them! I hope this helps and if you have any more questions please feel free to e-mail in

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I hope you enjoyed this weeks PICK&MIX and I will meet you all here next week:) In the meantime love you and appreciate you in your purest forms! Heres me FREEING THE FRO!


Love&Light Always.