Its Monday, some are happy and some are moaning and groaning. I’m jumping straight in this morning because Im super excited about this video I’m about to share.
‘Im not afraid to fail’ -Idris Elba
Mandatory Credit: Photo by Buckner/Variety/REX/Shutterstock (5577734ai) Idris Elba The 22nd Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards, Press Room, Los Angeles, America – 30 Jan 2016
OBE English actor and DJ, Idris Elba speaks out on Purveys ‘Thrive on’ campaign all about what thriving means to him and OMG I have watched this video every single day since finding it. We all lose focus, we all get scared to fail and we all wonder how the next man got to where they are, sometimes feeling bad about ourselves whilst making our observations. Idris Elba literally tackles every worry I’ve ever had about pursuing my dream so thought I would share this as our Monday Motivation.
My biggest fear was failure but then I realised actually my biggest fear was to get to an age and had never tried! What fears are holding you back? and what can you do to get passed them?
I really hope you enjoy and take what you can from it, pass on the vibes and lets go and win!
I am on holiday at the moment but I just wanted to share this incredible video that my friend Gabby shared with me, she’s always dropping gems on her gram story (@buddhawithabackpack)
But yes since watching this dope video I have to remind myself to be cute to myself (another Gabby saying) and whatever follows the words ‘I am’ will come looking for you. The energy in this clip is sure to get your energy up and its only 2 mins long (there is a longer version of the whole life class but just thought I would share this shorter one to get your morning going!)
So sharing is caring and I am passing on the good vibes! So enjoy and if you feel someone else can benefit then please keep sharing!
Firstly congratulations! Congratulations on joining us in the start to changing your life. You know to see big outcomes you must start off with small changes. Breaking free from the conditioning of something as simple as ‘hating mondays’ is a good place to start.
Your attitude moulds your life, whether you like it or not. You respond to EVERYTHING based on where YOU are at. Emotionally and mentally.
The moment you wake up and groan you are already denying life, you are already sending out ‘I don’t want to be here’.
You my friend, CAN and with our help change that.
Monday’s don’t have to be crap, Monday’s are just like any other day. What you make it.
Be the person and hold the kind of energy you would like to be around.
6 months ago during my breakdown I HATED my job and it affected everything. Now being a single mum who needs specific hours to work around my childcare I couldn’t just up and leave. I cried before work, I was grumpy at work, my energy was low. I was not the sunshine. I felt a little sorry for myself BUT not more than I felt sorry for my colleagues who had to be around me. So I actively looked for other work. You see that’s the problem most days, we complain about where we are at yet rarely actively set out to change it. 2 months later I was back doing what I loved, perfect hours, better money and all within a 25 minute drive from home! Winning!! I left my old job with an open door and a great reference and set upon my new journey.
I now work for myself on Mondays so Monday’s are always filled with work and little treats.
I always do something cute for myself on a Monday, whether it’s flowers or my favourite chocolate, a candle lit bath or a catch up with a friend. Why do we save all the good stuff for the weekend anyway?
Today I want you to do something nice for somebody else and then some thing nice for yourself and if it is your job that’s the problem or a toxic relationship getting you down I want you to start actively looking at how you can change that.
You deserve to live and be happy and you deserve to do what you love. You’ve just got to want it bad enough and understand it’s not going to be given on a plate. You have the strength even when you don’t feel like it, you are magic and you are different and have a purpose in this life. Never forget that!
Hope you have an amazing day! And enjoy this little video I found on you tube!!
Im going to jump straight in and talk about fear.
What is fear? Is it a bad thing? or could you use fear to excel in areas of your life you didn’t think possible?
The ultimate thing I have learnt is that for as long as we are pushing out of our comfort zones, we will ALWAYS experience fear.
I’m experiencing fear right now as I prep for this workshop I will be presenting later, but I now know fear is my trigger to know that I am pushing myself.
You too can push past your fears, the boundaries you create for yourself, the negative self chatter which has become your best friend.
The life you want is on the other side of your comfort zone and please believe fear will be your best friend. For as long as you grow, fear will be present. Never resent it. As you push past your fears your confidence will grow, your whole life experience will change, expand and you will ultimately become more powerful.
Pull the power from inside of you, you don’t need to belittle anyone else to get there, you already have a purpose, a gift. So take the risks that will help build on your self worth and take responsibility of your life. It’s hard to imagine that WE are the ones making our lives miserable and its easier to pass the blame on lousy friends, crap jobs, hard going bosses and destructive relationships, but really we are to blame. Whether you like it or not, you reading this right now have a choice and how you choose to deal with things and also what and who you choose to have in your life.
I hope today you do at least ONE thing out of your comfort zone and fight the fear. I’ve also listed ‘Susan Jeffers- Feel the fear and do it anyway’ on our book club page so I would definitely recommend reading that if you feel a little stuck right now!
Enjoy this little video I found on YouTube and I hope you have an incredible start to your week!
Firstly just wanted to say thank you for the patience and thank you for all your inboxes and messages! I did take a break and 2 months later, here I am. Feeling a lot better, happier and stronger!
I am going to be speaking more openly about what went down this year which lead me to take a break but in a nutshell, life caught up with me, childhood issues caught up with me and the one thing I have realised is you can’t run away from things, you have to accept, face and go through it. That is the only way to truly heal. There is no quick fix, there is no amazing book that will change your life, no doubt there are books that can start you off… mine was ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ Susan Jeffers. *Check out our book club page for all favourite reads or *hashtag*PMUIBOOKCLUB* but ultimately the truth is you have to face the music as they say.
Then and Now. Two top pics are me during a home video in the middle of my breakdown. The bottom pics are what self care look like x
It doesn’t have to be scary, but the first step is actually accepting that you aren’t ok, I would then say reach out to somebody. You need support and thats ok, honestly, it is totally ok not to be ok and to need help.
Thats another thing I will be touching on..this whole social media high light reel. Now don’t get me wrong I love social media but you really have to remember that EVERY SINGLE PERSON online has their own crap to deal with behind closed doors, so don’t go comparing your behind closed doors stuff to their beautifully filtered timeline.
But the whole aim of this blog today was to be honest and open and I truly feel I am at a space where I feel strong enough to do so. I can’t wait to share with you my highs and the lows that I experienced, you will see real tears and laughter but I share all of this in hope that if it helps at least one person then my job is done.
Thank you again for following, liking, inboxing and commenting. Enjoy this little video of me speaking a little bit about taking a break, being catfished and what is to come!
I won’t make this a long one, I was away this weekend mentoring with an amazing charity called XLP. The one thing it highlighted to me was:
Our hands are here to serve, our hearts to love and our mouths for words of encouragement.
Don’t be so fixated on what you can take but take time to think about what you can give back.
I am no expert on life and I don’t have all the answers but the one thing I am sure of is we are all here to fulfil a purpose, and before your mind starts wondering to the lack of success you’ve had, purpose and success are two very different things.
This weekend taught me to live more simply and to use what God already gave me, my body, my mind and my words. With just these three things (which I feel blessed to have) I feel I am already fulfilling my purpose here on earth.
This Monday don’t be so hard on yourself trying to have it all together, just go out there and do the best you can with what you have!
Happy hump day and all that jazz, I have had better days BUTTT I am still super excited to tell you guys all about Pick Me Up’s latest new adventure. We are collaborating with an amazing project called The Hush Puppy Project and we were able to speak at the amazing GIRL BOSS event that I told you guys about on the Monday Motivation Blog!
The Hush Puppy Project is a project that was started by the amazing LuLu Johnson and it to raise money to build a library on Eden farm, an orphan village in the process of being developed, a house at a time in Zambia!!! This village has been set up by a charity called Life Support. It’s all super exciting and if you check out this video you can see us at the event and the audiences reaction was more than myself or LuLu could have imagined.
If you want to donate which I really really hope you do, you can tx HUSH16 to 70070 with the amount you wish to donate!
There are currently 12 children on the farm, and with hopes of the numbers growing up to 250, it is important to have a place such as a library for the children to read and learn. This means everything to LuLu and I am so happy to have Pick Me Up on board and involved.
If you wish to donate any clothes or books please send us an email and get in touch
All I have in my head from yesterday’s GIRLBOSS event is YASSSSSS HONEY YASSSSS!
If you were there then you know exactly what I am talking about! OMG! What an amazing event! Put on by the fabulous Kiziah&Co and Shieleen David! SO this Monday Motivation is literally a quick one to say YOU CAN DO WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT TO DO!
Yesterday was hosted by one of my favourite presenters Maya Jama, I shared the stage with some of the most amazing and inspiring women in our generation and if you had of told me 2 years ago when I started Pick Me Up Inc that the same people I follow and get inspiration from on instagram and in life that I would be up there sharing the same stage I would of laughed also the fact that I get stage fright would have been another reason to laugh at such a crazy idea. But yesterday there I was up there speaking and networking away! ha-ha!
Besides doing small workshops on self love and speaking I got a chance to share the stage with my amazing friend LuLu and tell everyone about a new project called ‘The Hush Puppy Project’ we are raising funds to build a library in Zambia. (More Info to come in a post based on that) but we raised some money yesterday so THANK YOU!
Myself and the beautiful Maya Jama
We had the likes of Ruby Moore (dear friend of mine) and CEO of amor magazine, Siobhan Bell, DJ and founder of cherryade, Mama’s Boutiques ladies, Just Geen, Personal trainer and food blogger, Shea Moss and last but not least Chams and Lina from FACE4MUSIC. Not to mention the incredible performances from Shear, Nipah and Rebecca Garton. Then all the amazing beautiful ladies that came out for the event! It was literally a party!
Me and Ruby Moore (CEO of Amor) Work those frames, yassss honey!
I won’t keep you for much longer but this is a reminder that you are a girl boss, your biggest downfall is probably what you tell yourself you can’t do yet you are probably there being one of your friends biggest supporters! Cheer yourself on, get around like minded individuals. So many amazing women came and spoke with me yesterday and the main thing I got was that they were scared to go for their goal. But all I say is what is there more to fear? Trying and it taking a very long time? (because you will get there one day) or never trying and going to that job you hate everyday? or staying in that relationship or friendship that you know is no good for you? Only you can change your life and it starts with the words and thoughts you have and tell yourself.
I did put together a short video but it wouldn’t upload so for now `i will leave you with something super cute and inspiring from youtube. Enjoy. x
So it’s Monday and the sun is shining in London. Can’t be a bad start can it? But for some of you, you would have already thought the worse.
I want you to know you manifest your day, how you start your day can be everything but its never too late to start if yours hasn’t started how you wanted.
3 S T E P S T O A B E T T E R M O N D A Y
-Take a minute to yourself, visualise how you want your day to go-
-Workout in the AM, get your endorphins going-
A N D B E G O O D T O Y O U R S E L F
Whether you like it or not energy is real, your thoughts do count for something and you do attract things to you. You are deserving of a good life, you deserve happy days and you deserve to do well. But you’ve got to want it, you have to be kind to yourself and you have to take responsibility for your actions and thoughts.
You have to believe you already have it, see yourself live it, visualise it.
You are a magnet.
Enjoy this video I found of some of the most well known actors and successful people of our time speaking about the law of attraction and the power of manifestation.
So yesterday’s Sunday session was about procrastination, here we are with a new day and a new week to start a new leaf. You still have time to follow that dream or tick off that to-do list but the time is now.
Here’s a little 3 minute video featuring motivational speaker Eric Thomas that I listened to this morning, listen, take note and pass it on. We can help build each other to the top.