Sunday Sessions- A product of procrastination

 “If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.”

~ Olin Miller

Hey Guys, its Yasmin here, well the above quote is true and it leads me on to something on my mind following a convo with a friend.

Why do we procrastinate??? Especially when we know its so bad and makes us feel rubbish?!

I have a confession, I am the BIGGEST procrastinator, like if there was a picture next to the word procrastination I’m pretty sure there would be a picture of me scrolling through pinterest pinning things for my dream home and cute elephants with amazing backdrops whilst fully ignoring the pile of work I know needs to be done. lol!

If I’m honest I even procrastinated on this blog post as the ‘convo’ with a friend I had took place last week yet I have only sat down now to write it.

When I openly speak about me procrastinating people are shocked, but I think its better to be open and honest and recognise these things as I know I’m not the only one. And through recognising, only then can we change and improve on ourselves:) I procrastinate on the small things but it still gets me down.

Have you ever had that feeling when you know you have things to do but you put them off then you feel worse for not doing it? Therefore making you feel even more crap, so you procrastinate some more…pinterest anyone? lol! Well yep that is me.

But I do believe to a certain extent we are all procrastinating with something. Deep down I think even the most organised humans who stick to deadlines and are punctual are procrastinating in one way or another, it may be something small or a dream that we keep putting off starting. Travelling? Reaching out to somebody? ANYTHING!  Just for a moment think about something you need to do or want to do and ask yourself WHY you are yet to start or get going, what is holding you back?

I’m slowly working through the small stuff and have given myself deadlines especially with things that are self made and I am fond of lists. Its amazing what a big tick next to a to-do list can do for the soul! ha-ha!

In my search for finding out WHY we procrastinate my friend sent me this really interesting Ted Talks on Procrastination with blogger, Tim Urban. Using humour and pure honesty he explores the mind of a procrastinator and it really resonated with me so thought it would be useful to share with you guys.

This is your Sunday reminder that you can handle whatever this week throws at you. Remember to stay centred and be gentle with yourself. I hope you enjoy the video and check back in tomorrow for Monday Motivation!

Love&Light Always

Y.E.x

Monday Motivation- Have you got a finisher’s heart?

Good rising guys!

Monday, Monday, Monday!

New week, new goals or maybe working on the old ones but definitely a new day for opportunties and to go that little bit harder!

Me and my (amazing) friend Ashleigh (@MsAshleighJadee) pick a word for the week every Sunday, I think so far we’ve had, fearless, consistency, honesty and this weeks word is PATIENCE!

We do this because it allows us to concentrate on a particular area in our lives that we may not pay attention to otherwise. I was so happy when Ash picked this word because living in an instant generation where we literally have everything at the click of a button it is easy to become impatient and maybe even give up on things prematurely.

I have found that exercising patience isn’t about the ability to wait, if something is delayed we have no choice but to wait. lol But it is our attitude while waiting that is everything.

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I’ve used this picture of J.K.Rowling because the story of her patience and consistency is an iconic one. There were days when she wanted to give up and there was certainly days where she could see no light at the end of the tunnel but lucky for her and us she didn’t give up. She kept going and with patience, persistence and a lot of fight she is now one of the most iconic women in publishing. Oh and yes you read write…she was 31 years old. So don’t stress too much if you’re in your 20’s feeling a little lost and discouraged.

Have you got a finisher’s heart? Don’t quit!

I hope you can join us in exercising patience this week or even pick your very own word to use, honestly it makes such a difference. But I will stop yapping on now and leave you with this short and sweet video I found on youtube all about patience. I hope you enjoy and have an amazing week!

Love & Light Always

Y.E. x

Monday Motivation- Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish

Morning Morning!

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I’ve been up since 5am and I’m feeling gooood! I’ve will be writing a blog all about utilising your mornings to get the best out of your day BUT we will save that for another day! Today I wanted to sprinkle a little light on why you may not be particularly excited that its a Monday and just how we can help you out.

Normally the dread of waking up to a new week can stem from the fact that you hate your job which means you’re not doing what you love. Now as morbid as this sounds, we are all going to die. In fact you are dying right now, it just may be that you haven’t got an incurable decease that you fail to acknowledge that every day is a blessing and the problem you have is you think you have time.

I am a massive fan of Steve Jobs (Founder of Apple and Pixar) and his story, but one thing that always spoke to me was his opinion and passion for doing what you love. He said every morning he would look in the mirror and ask him self ‘If this was the last day of my life would I wanna do what I’m about to do, and if the answer is no a few days in a row then I know it is time to change something.’ This is invaluable advice. As many of you rise and get out the house today ask yourself this same question. If the answer is no then don’t settle! Find what you love, stay working and hustling but don’t you ever settle until you’ve found that job or career that makes you want to jump out of bed every morning.

In true Monday Motivation tradition I will leave you with this cool video I found of one of Steve Jobs speeches. I hope you are inspired as I was and I will let you in to a secret, I don’t particularly like my part time job so after watching this video I went and applied for what I could call my dream job. Like Steve Jobs says. I’m going to die anyway, what do I have to lose?

So don’t settle! Find your passion and love what you do!

Happy Monday and have a good one!

Love&Light Always

Y.E.x

 

Monday Motivation- How’s your week looking? BOOMING!

Good Rising Guys!

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THEY DON’T WANT YOU TO BE MOTIVATED AND LIKE MONDAYS!

     Sooo yep it’s Monday, some of you are excited for the new week ahead but majority have cries and despair over the fact that it is indeed Monday again.

You already know the deal, here at Pick Me Up Inc we love a Monday and I personally love it too! “How can she love a monday?” I hear you ask yourself in disbelief, well I’ve made Mondays MINE and here are 5 tips to make Monday YOURS!

MAKE MONDAY YOURS

1.SET SOME INTENTIONS AND GET UP AND OUT! (or even if you’re staying in, get washed & up!)

2.Write a list (my good friend Ana swears by lists) I get anxiety from time to time and writing a list even if when I’m at work really helps me get organised and I feel great ticking everything off! Win Win!

3.Include something in your Monday that is just for you! Without fail on a Monday I always make time to do something I love whether it is a cheeky latte in the cafe by myself, read, workout or catching up with a friend.

4.Do something for somebody else, whether it be to buy a colleague a coffee, help a neighbour or even send this Monday Motivation to somebody else 😉

‘If you’re not making someone else’s life better, you’re wasting your time’- Will Smith

5.And last but not least your foods effect your moods, so make sure that what you are feeding yourself will nourish you and make you feel energised.

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A picture of Leonardo DiCaprio just because. 1. I like this picture and 2. His win at the Oscars last night showed that with or without praise and recognition you must remain consistent. 3.Cheers to the new week!

I hope this helps even if just a little bit but this is what I live by and a Monday is never an issue for me. You can make this day and week yours and if you really really hate your job or current situation its time to grab the notepad and make an action plan to get out. You have a choice and have the power to create your world. Never doubt that. Here’s a little video I came across in the week I hope you enjoy!

Love&Light Always

Y.E.x

Monday Motivation- You got this!

Oprah Winfrey seen onstage at 2014 Santa Barbara International Film Festival - Montecito Award ceremony on Wednesday, Feb, 5, 2014 in Santa Barbara, Calif. (Photo by Richard Shotwell/Invision/AP)

Good morning guys!

It’s Monday, and here in London its raining (shock!) for some its the first day back to work after the weekend and for parents the first day back to the school run, I know secretly some are like woo woo after a week of mess and mayhem trying to keep the kids entertained. (I feel you! ha-ha)

Yesterday I had the pleasure of delivering workshops based on self love to girls and women from the ages of 5-31. I came home and started watching all sorts on women empowerment and stumbled across this short but effective video on youtube.

I hope this video Im going to share with you inspires you as it did me! If you’re a male reader I believe you can gage something also but please show your daughters, send to your partners or friends. Any woman you know that may need that little reminder that they have got this! We all fail, we all lack self care at some point but thats not a reason to give up! Enjoy and share share share!

Love&Light Always

Y.E.x

Monday Motivation – Denzel has got a message for you this morning!  

“Utilise that gift, don’t abuse that gift, treasure it”-Denzel Washington

Hey hey!

Monday morning, wiping the sleep from your eye thinking ‘Where did the weekend go?’ (Input distraught face) butttt this morning I wanted to share this wicked video from Denzel Washington speaking on goals and dreams.

Now let’s be honest, we all have dreams, we all have goals we wish to attain, nobody wants to look back in 5-6 years and see no growth. But we can want all we want, it going to take action, dedication, consistency and discipline to make anything happen.

I hope that you get something out of this video and be sure to know that YOUR dreams can be turned in to reality, when your heart is in it you already have it, it’s just for you to decide how far you want to take it.

Enjoy! Share with a loved one and let’s motivate one another to the top!

Love&Light Always

‘Broken from the beginning’

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Broken from the beginning?

There’s one ultimate thing that we all want deep down…LOVE

To love and to be loved.

This is something that weighs heavy on my heart but something that I don’t speak on often enough.

Right so let’s start from the beginning. I was born twenty something years ago and raised by a single mum. I never really asked too many questions about my dad, to be honest not having a dad seemed normal to me. When I did become inquisitive about it my mum was very honest she said “I gave your dad 2 options:

1. Stay and raise these girls with me or

2. Leave and let me raise them alone”

Yep he chose the latter.

Anyway, growing up I witnessed and knew of a lot of domestic violence within my family home and from close family friends. That was it, I made up my mind “I’m never getting married, men are horrible”, I didn’t have a positive male in my life and believed there was no such thing. I would go to school friend’s houses and be scared of speaking to their dad, I would rarely stay at a friend’s house if she had a dad because I thought that whilst we were sleeping, I would hear their parents fighting and furniture breaking.

During my teenage years, I spent more time fighting with boys than caring about who liked me, I never saw it as an issue. Fast forward a few years and I started to look at the relationship of boys and girls differently. My friends started to get into long term relationships and having babies. I was still there chilling, I would speak to people for a while but it never seemed to ‘work out’.

Now I’m going to explain what I mean by ‘Broken from the beginning’. My friends that were and still are in long term relationships, literally all have a positive father figure in their lives, and I deeply believe that this has a huge impact on our future relationships. They are shown first hand nurturing and positive relations between a mother and father, they know what to look for in a man and how they should be respected treated. Without that, how are we taught to be loved, not liked but loved, taught that men should elevate their women, not hit on them?

It’s a concept that I’m still trying to come to terms with and as of late it’s something that I want to understand, accept and grow with. My personal past relationships have reflected my experiences, through casual relationships/ situationships, being unbothered and being pessimistic about a new guy. I’m often told things like ‘Oh you’re too unemotional’, ‘you’re too independent, let him do things for you’, ‘you didn’t tell me you felt that way’. Don’t be fooled, I’m super sensitive and very emotional, I just keep it to myself.

Truth is I’m fucking scared. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to feel and I don’t know what to say. I never knew love from a man, my mum taught me how to value myself and her relationships taught me what to not look for in a man, but can a woman really teach a girl everything?

In my opinion, NO.

Now I’m here trying to gather the fact that not all men are the same regardless of what I’ve seen and its now down to me to be open and learn how to accept love. Sometimes we’ve got to let go of the past and our perceptions and grow, love is out there for all of us!

And every day I speak to the universe that when I have a daughter, she will be a daddy’s girl and together we will raise her to be valued and loved unconditionally and not to be broken from the beginning!

Anonymous x

Monday Motivation: ‘I love living. It is infectious’-Will Smith

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 ‘Just decide. What its going to be. Who you’re going to be. How you’re going to do it’ 

Will Smith

Good rising Kings and Queens,

Its Monday, you not only have a new day and a new week you have a new month. I wanted to share with you guys a video of all of Will Smith’s best interviews and speeches where he gives us real gems on becoming successful and emotionally happier with our lives.

It served as a reminder to me that the difference between the US and the UK is the US believe in the unimaginable. From a young age they are told you can do and be anything you want no matter where you come from. I feel here in the UK we are more limited and structured. We don’t believe our dreams are realistic enough and like Will Smith says in this video ‘Being realistic is the most common travelled road to mediocrity’.

This is your Monday message to say IT IS OK TO DREAM BIG, BELIEVE IN THE UNREALISTIC AND PUSH UNTIL YOU GET THERE! You have this one life in this body, why are you playing safe?

Have an amazing one guys!

Enjoy. Love & Light.

Y.E.x

Monday Motivation- No jump, no flight.

  
 Good rising kings and queens,

It’s Monday, some of you are jumping for joy and some of you, well actually probably most of you are longing to ring the boss and say ‘Today is cancelled, I will be in tomorrow’. But there’s money to be made and bills to be paid right?! Not to mention that holiday you need to book ASAP! 

But before you roll into a ball of negativity and resent for this Monday morning I wanted to share with you a video I sent out to my friends this week. It was a video that left me pumped and although already embarking on a business adventure just gave me that extra motivation I needed (believe me WE ALL FALL OFF SOMETIMES!). Steve Harvey, internationally known for being a comedian is also well known for his very inspiring advice and thoughts. Through books, such as ‘Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady’ (also a major film), tv and radio shows Mr Harvey has made his mark and really does have a way with words and the ability to make you think. 

Just remember, today is a new week, a new day and a chance to change your life. You are stronger than you think and to make the jump from great to greater. I will say no more and let Mr Harvey work his magic and I am confident you will start today with a completely different attitude. 

Enjoy!


Love&Light Always

Y.E.x

Dear Diary..

Hey guys,

So I’ve named this blog post Dear Diary because thats exactly where I felt like I was writing. Lol. 

So it’s been a year since a close family friend commited suicide and it had me thinking that whilst most are in high spirits around this time of year, not everybody is. 

A time where if you have lost somebody or don’t have family or even friends it seems now it would be highlighted and you could feel more isolated and alone than ever. If this is you please please know you’re not alone, if you’re reading this that means you have access to the Internet which is a great start for reaching out to people. You can find clubs or classes that may be great for you to join. Or even if it’s reaching out to a friend, sometimes you have to put your ego to the side and do it. Ask for help. 

I remember last year feeling more alone than ever as I was changing and so was my lifestyle and although I love and adore my friends there were certain conversations that I just couldn’t have with them. That’s where Instagram came in and I was blessed to be connected with so many like minded people and people I could also learn from. It’s all about reaching out. I also started going to boot camp and now I go to gymnastics (btw I am not flexible and fall flat on my face most of the time! Haha) but I’ve made some life long friends, not to mention feeling fitter and healthier. I now have 1-1 yoga with a beautiful young lady who again I also feel will be in my life for a very long time. It’s all about pushing your comfort zone and getting out there.

I’ve also recently felt there is so much pressure amongst us to make next year so much better than this one. Which don’t get me wrong isn’t necessarily wrong but I know some of my friends feel super lost and don’t even know where to begin and I for one started to feel overwhelmed with how I could top this year, which will be hard. 

To help me with my new year I sat down and wrote where I want to be this time next year, what I would have wanted to accomplish. Now don’t be afraid to aim high! Last year I wrote I wanted to be on radio and be in a magazine amongst other stuff but please believe both of those came true! 

The key is to be gentle but honest with yourself, focus on you and your growth. Don’t worry too much on how far your friend is getting, instead use their journey for inspiration rather than allowing it to put you down or make you feel like you are under achieving.   

If you have past issues then I would always recommend speaking to somebody or finding a positive outlet, I’m yet to have counselling but I’ve realised my outlet is anything to do with exercise and meditation. So I make time for these. I’m a mother, a single one at that, I work part time, run pick me up inc but still find time to do things I know I love. I have battled with self harming since I was 11 and so I know it is vital to find time to do things that allow me to release any tension or negative energy.

I wrote this post this evening because it’s been weighing heavy on my heart that we put too much pressure on ourselves to have it all together and that alone can make us feel down or like we are not doing enough. 

You don’t have to feel alone, you are powerful and so much stronger than you think. Every day is your day. Reach out and get the support you need. Never be embarrassed or afraid. 

Love&Light Always.

Y.E.x

  

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